What do you consider to be your biggest Fear Monster? Focusing on what makes you to be you: your unique identity may help get rid of some of those fears. Although that is completely different for each of us, finding ways to help manage our fears can profoundly reflect in some way such as in our…

*Generosity           *Beauty         *Focus           *Accountability           *Courage             *Forgiving    *Responsibility

*Trust            *Creativity     *Authenticity        *Love       *Compassionate    *Dependable         *Strength

Remember, whatever you focus on grows. And whatever you search for, you will find!

When you focus on the things most important to you, it can change everything! That alteration that you make in yourself, or even the way you look at the situation, that enables you to experience freedom, peace, confidence, that comes with believing in yourself and the fact that you can accomplish things you put positively in your mind.  Those things you were meant to enjoy (self-care, time with family, hobbies) and that has a positive impact both personally and professionally.

Is Your Fear Monster Calling the Shots?

When you allow your fears to call the shots – does that ever turn out to be a good idea? When those fears start gaining control, some of those awesome, positive chances and possibilities seem to vanish, hope dwindles, and your fear materializes, and you feel stuck. Sadly, you cannot focus on those gifts or your purpose because your fears have dwindled away your passion, determination, and focus that you need to be who you were made to be.

Those Annoying Fear Monsters

• *Wearing you out trying to chase success, perfection and more!
• *Keeping you from investing in and taking care of yourself however you need to.
• *Allowing others to ignore your boundaries.
• *Saying “yes” when you should say no.
• *Not sharing your expectations and or making assumptions.
• *You become resentful because you put everything and everyone else first while you ignore your own needs.
• *Focusing on the negatives in your life, rather than looking at all the positives you should be thankful for.
• *We worry, stress and make ourselves anxious.
• *Ignoring your passions, strengths, talents, and all that makes you uniquely awesome!
• *Instead of dealing with them, we fool ourselves into thinking we don’t have any fears. *It’s ok to be scared or worried, just don’t let it take your life over.
• *Being too caring or sensitive.
• *Starting conflict.

Of course, this list is far from inclusive!!! There are dozens and dozens of other ways your Fear Monster is preventing you from being your best self.

When your Fear Monster’s at work, it triggers fear in those around you. In other words, your Fear Monster triggers other fears. And when Fear Monsters get going, it creates an endless loop that is far worse than any weird animal encounter! That repetition can take place in your personal relationships, especially with your spouse. It may also show up with the people you work with closely including your team. Or with anyone else that’s important to you.

Ignoring your Fear Monster or attempting to prove that you matter, are calm, or that you are enough, only makes matters worse! To quiet your Fear Monster, you must focus on something completely different! Doing breathing exercises, meditation, writing your fears down in a journal or keeping active when you are anxious. After all, what you focus on grows, right?